LIfe Would Be Better If We Were All A Bit More Like Charlie Brown
The Fall season, especially Halloween, always make me think of my Gram and her love for all things family and celebration. She was an amazing woman who loved so abundantly and authentically and I miss her every day. She had many loves and one of those loves was Charlie Brown. Every year when “It’s The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown” comes on, I sit, watch and think of her.
I never asked her why she liked Charlie Brown so much, but knowing the woman that she was, I like to think it was because Charlie Brown never gives up hope, no matter if things didn’t go his way. That pretty much describes my Gram. She lived by the motto, “make each day count” and it was reflected in how she loved, forgave and cared for others.
As the other half in a relationship, we have an amazing opportunity to make each day count with our mate. And as amazing as this opportunity is, sometimes we squander it. Sometimes we let the anger from the night before carry into our next morning. Sometimes we let our resentment grow and distance creeps in. Sometimes disconnection makes us give up hope and stop holding up our end of the bargain.
I think the hardest part of relationships is that often times things don’t go as we planned. We have these amazing expectations of one another and in our humaneness, we fall short. We disappoint. We betray. We fail.
And when things don’t go as planned, we can feel like giving up hope. Out of frustration. Out of anger. And sometimes out of plain ol’ exhaustion. But we have an amazing opportunity for these shortcomings, these failures, to be temporary, not permanent.
Because an amazing thing happens when we work diligently to make each day count….we get to be more present in love. We get to find the joy of what’s right in front of us. We don’t have to wait for someday or if only’s to be happy….we get to do it right now.
Making each day count in love means that even when we get frustrated, or tired or sad, we still have an opportunity, a choice, to find the gift in what’s in front of us. Making each day count means that we have the opportunity to forgive, to let go and to heal.
Life is short and so for me, making the choice to be present, to not give up hope and to make each day count feels like a way that I can honor my mate and our relationship. It also feels like one of the best ways I can carry on my Gram’s legacy. Striving to love in the best way I can and not giving up hope when things don’t go my way.
So today I challenge you to be a little bit more like Charlie Brown, or even better, love the way that my Gram did, by making each day count. It really is an amazing shift we can make in love.
If your relationship feels a bit hopeless right now, or if you need support to get back to making each day count with each other, please reach out. I’d love to talk more.
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