Good Is the Enemy of Great!

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Good is the enemy of great-Voltaire

Are you settling for the “good” in your relationship without challenging yourself to achieve the great? 

I actually had the opportunity to listen to a business guru talk the other day and it left me full of inspiration for the work that I do. He shared a quote by Voltaire, a 17th century Enlightenment leader, of “good being the enemy of great” and I can’t tell you how much it resonated with me. 

It’s a quote that I’ve heard before, and yet each time I hear it, I literally get goosebumps.  In my Sacramento therapy office, I often meet folks that have been surviving in their relationship for some time and have become resigned to the fact that love is just so-so. 

And honestly it’s really heartbreaking.  Especially when I see two people that were once so connected and in sync believing that a drop in relationship satisfaction is simply what happens and the best they can expect.  Like I said heartbreaking.

Especially because settling for good prevents us from putting the work into making our relationships great.  Settling for good allows us to rationalize that we deserve it to be great. And that we can make it great.  We essentially sell ourselves short before we even try!

And don’t get me wrong, good is good enough for some people, but I have a feeling that if you’re reading this, you’re not one of those people.  You’re one of those people that wants your relationship to thrive, but maybe you’re just unsure at times on how to get it there. 

Or maybe you’re a lot like the rest of us in that you really want a great relationship, but prioritizing the time it takes to make that a reality is constantly interrupted. 

Or maybe you’ve tried before to make it great and it felt like you weren’t getting the results you wanted.

Regardless, now is the time to make that leap to greatness!

So here’s what I want you to do:

1)    Accept that relationships take work and a great one takes even more work!

2)    Throw away the belief that drops in relationship satisfaction are unavoidable and stop using that as an excuse to not work on love.

3)    Get comfortable with the uncomfortable.  Achieving greatness in love requires vulnerability, trust, connection and those things can make us uncomfortable.  But they’re also signs that we’re on the path to greatness.

4)    Reach out for support. Whether its couples counseling, reading a great relationship book or attending a couple’s workshop, do something to get the support you need for success.

5)    Lastly, be bold in your quest for greatness.  Do something.  Create movement.  Take action.  Working on love requires courage and you have to believe that you deserve it in order to work towards greatness in love.

I want to hear which of these action steps you’re diving into first. When you get to step #4, be sure and reach out to me via email or phone as I’m happy to share the resources I use with couples in relationship counseling in Sacramento, including information about relationship books and couples workshops!

If you find yourself getting stuck in the good and wanting the great, it’s probably time for some extra support?  Couples counseling is an awesome way to get things back on track!  Don’t hesitate to reach out to me in my Sacramento Therapy offices.  

As always, I want to hear from you!  I want to know what your journey through connection and love is like. 

Send me an email,, give me a call, 916.955.3200 or comment below. 

I can’t wait to hear from you.