Are You Free Of Clutter In Love?

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Are You Free Of Clutter In Love?

Spring is in the air and it’s that fun time of year when I start to go through closets and drawers to create some extra breathing room. I’m a big believer in getting rid of the old in order to allow space for the new to come into your life.  And with my home and office being “lightened” of stuff, it makes me think about all of the areas of life we hang onto things.  Can we be cluttered in love?


Because if you think about clutter, it’s essentially anything you don’t use, need or love, so it’s sort of game on when it comes to clearing out.  And it’s amazing how you can hold onto emotional clutter in love much longer than needed and not even notice the space it’s taking up.

So in an effort to help you step into spring and de-clutter your love relationship, here’s a few tips to follow!

1)    Set a timer and give yourself 10 minutes to journal all the “junk” you’re holding onto in love. Are you holding onto resentment, anger?  Are you holding back forgiveness or a much needed apology?  Anything that’s holding you back in love.  Anything that’s taking up space and creating distance with your mate.  Once the timer dings, tear those pages out, rip them up or burn them.

2)   Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Start simple. De-cluttering in love can be harder than it seems as it requires to let go and release.  When you’re actively working to let go of the past in order to make room for the present, do it with small concentrated steps.  A little bit of forgiveness and mental release goes a long way.

3)   Ask yourself, is the mental junk I’m holding onto something I still use, need or love? If not, then it’s time for it to go.  Remember, if it doesn’t fit into the “use, need or love” category, it’s not serving you in love any longer. 

4)    Identify what you’re making room for.  The whole point of eliminating emotional clutter is to make room for more.  And I don’t mean stuff.  You’re making room for new energy, new opportunities and new moments.  Get clear of what you want to create in love.  Do the work to get rid of the stuff that no longer serves you.  Are you wanting more passion, more spontaneity, more zest for each other? Getting rid of clutter is a great way to have an energy shift in love.

If you need a little support as you let go of emotional clutter in love, I’d love to help.

And most importantly, please let me know what your journey in love and connection is like.   I’d love to hear.  Send me an email, or give me a call, 916.955.3200.