It’s often really intense work, because these couples have waited so long to come to therapy and so much damage has been done to the relationship that it becomes unrepairable. It can also be extremely painful, especially if one partner is still holding out hope that the relationship can be healed, but the other is clearly done.
And I applaud this work. In fact, I welcome it in a lot of ways. The reason? Because it takes a hell of a lot of courage to come to therapy to find a way to break up in the healthiest way possible.