I Hope You Know.
I was sitting with a friend at lunch the other day, with a perfect view of the walking path and park. A sweet little toddler and her dad were walking and for whatever reason she started getting frustrated (we all know how toddlers are) and the dad got on his knee, slowed down and started to calm whatever frustration baby girl was struggling with. My friend turned to me and quietly said, “I hope he knows how important he is to her…he’s her whole world.”
Her words took my breath away, because it’s so true.
And so today, in honor of Father’s Day this month. I want to remind all of the fathers, uncles, grandpas, and best friends….You SO make a difference. And I HOPE you know how important you are. You see we model relationships after what we see. NOT what we hear, NOT what we believe, but what we SEE. And the most important relationships we SEE are those that are right in front of us.
I know you’ve all heard me say this before, but I believe that you can model very healthy relationships to your children, even if you’re divorced or separated. The determining factor is how You show up. Are you respectful? Are you kind? Do you think two steps ahead of how your words/actions/behaviors potentially injuring others?
Your ability to positively impact your children is not determined by whether or not you stay married. It’s determined by how you treat each other.
And the role model of a father is hugely important. I know that many men see their primary job as provider. And I’m not here to argue or dispute that. The intention of this blog post is to inspire those fathers that discount the important role they play in their children’s lives or think their presence is best served by sitting on the sidelines.
My encouragement to you is to get in the game.
You are a vital part of your children’s lives and every moment that you’re there, championing them, supporting their mom, building up their self-esteem, encouraging their successes and unconditionally loving on them as they fail has a tremendous ripple effect on their future relationships.
No matter how small the moment is, take it. No matter how silly it may seem, slow down. No matter how worried, stressed or scared you are, know that you have the ability to reassure the little ones in your life.
And no matter what, I hope you know how important you are.
Happy Father’s Day from one really appreciative mom.