Relationship tip #5: If you have something nice to say…SAY IT!

We are officially in the throws of summer and if I’m being completely honest…I really like these hot days. I grew up in the beautiful Monterey area which means gorgeous views AND never a summer day over 68 degrees.  So being out in the sun and taking a cooling off dive into the pool is perfectly fine for me.

These long days of summer are also when the craziness of summer travel, the kids being out of school and trying to run a business all seem to catch up with me in a less than celebratory, pretty overwhelming sort of way.

And when I find myself in that sort of headspace, I need to do a quick check in on my mindset. Meaning, I have to pause and ask myself “Am I looking at things through a glass half empty and running on fumes OR am I taking small moments to adjust expectations and breathe?”

One of my biggest “slowing” down strategies is gratitude. As simple as it may seem, the act of writing down or verbally sharing gratitude creates Ah-MAZING shifts in your attitude.  It’s a simple act that yields big rewards AND it’s harder to apply then you think.

A mindset of gratitude lends perfectly to this week’s relationship tip….

If you have something nice to say…SAY IT!

If you’re finding yourself overwhelmed, stretched thin and stressed out, chances are you’re not noticing or expressing gratitude for the small things in your life. I know this to be true in my own life and I’m assuming it’s similar for you.

If you have something nice to say to your mate, your children, your friends, I want you to say it. Pick up the phone, send a quick text or jot it down in your journal.  Kindness is meant to be shared, not stuffed inside.

Throw kindness around like confetti my friend and see what starts to take shape around you.

Save this meme as a reminder to “just say it” this week in love.